This page contains affiliate links where if you click on a link and make a purchase using one of my affiliate links, I will earn a small compensation at no extra cost to you.
In honor of today being my wedding anniversary, I thought this post seemed fitting! My husband and I have been together for coming up on 9 years and have been married as of today for 4 years! We met when we were just 15, and have been together ever since. But that is not to say that it’s been all rainbows and butterflies our entire relationship, because that is FAR from the truth! All throughout high school, my husband (then boyfriend) lived in Colorado and I lived in Texas. Having a long distance relationship at any age is tough, but especially at that age! Then, after we graduated, he joined the Navy, so we were apart in the beginning of that as well. Through it all though, it has brought us closer together and made us appreciate every moment we have together. I think that’s why at such a young age we have been able to make it work, because you never know when something can happen to where you’re apart from each other, so we pick our battles wisely and try to value every second.
I’ve definitely learned a LOT over these last 4 years, and I’m sure I have plenty more to learn too! From my experience, here are my top 6 tips for having a long lasting, healthy, successful marriage.
1 – Make time for each other
It can be so easy to fall into your daily routines in life and not make time for each other, but you have to make the decision to find time anyways! Your marriage always needs to be a top priority, and a marriage cannot thrive if it isn’t nurtured. Even if it’s something a simple as watching a show together, you can feel close to your spouse. Try to make time daily for each other!
2 – Also take time for yourself
Just as how it’s important to spend time with your spouse, it’s also important to spend time without your spouse. Having some “me” time for some self care has definitely benefited both me and my spouse. For example, my husband LOVES to play video games…while I couldn’t care less! Alternatively, my guilty pleasure is watching reality TV…and my husband would rather do anything else BUT watch that with me! (Granted I have been successful in getting him to watch a couple episodes of The Bachelor! 😉) The point is, you not only don’t have to give up your personal hobbies, but you shouldn’t! It’s important to have your own identity still.
If you are struggling with your relationship, click here to discover online therapy now! Online-therapy.com provides so many techniques that you can learn from a licensed professional. Get 20% off when you sign up now!
3 – Pick your battles wisely
When you live with somebody and you’re with that person pretty much 24/7, it is extremely easy to pick a fight over literally anything. Why are the dishes not done, why did you leave this shirt on the floor, etc. Definitely pick your battles wisely, and set healthy boundaries! If you know that this topic is something where you both aren’t going to agree, then agree to disagree. This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t ever bring your concerns to your spouse, just try to think about how it comes off from their point of view. If it’s a big topic, of course discuss it, but if it’s something small where it just comes off as nagging, bite your tongue and move along!
4 – Communicate and be honest
Communication is one of the most important things you can do in any relationship. This shows that you’re in a healthy relationship. It’s so important to be honest and open about everything with each other. My husband and I feel so comfortable in our marriage, and the reason is because we know that there isn’t anything going on that the other doesn’t know about. It’s such a smooth relationship, when you can just be honest and communicate.
Click here to get a FREE weekly self care checklist! And if you need help setting healthy goals, check out this workbook to achieve your goals like a boss! You can do this!
5 – Trust and respect each other
Trust and respect go hand in hand, and both are essential! It should be a no brainer that you should be able to trust your partner, whether if you’re married or not, so the thought of unfaithfulness shouldn’t even be on your radar once you tie the knot. Trust goes deeper than just that. Trust that your spouse has your back no matter what, and always show respect for each other.
6 – Never stop dating!
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you get to just stop dating and trying in general! Remember how hard you tried in the beginning of the relationship? Keep that momentum going for your entire relationship. As mentioned earlier, life can get hectic and you can easily fall into everyday routines, but it really is vital that you go off and do things together, just the two of you.
I can’t believe it’s already been 4 years that I’ve been married! I’ve learned so much over the years, and some of these things we already had or were doing, but we have put even more attention towards it and seen results! How long have you been married, and what are some tips you have?